When my eldest son was three he started asking an indecent number of “why?” and “what is it?” questions about the world. Coming up with answers was sometimes challenging; no one can draw attention to the folly and illogical nature of the adult world like a child. And so it was that we began distinguishing those things that had a clear purpose (the “why” questions we answered) from those things that were “just decoration” (ones we couldn’t quite figure out the point of).

I am afraid that modern Western society has subconsciously relegated the female figure to “just decoration”; it appears set on divorcing the appearance of my body from its point– it’s use. And I believe this has had a tragic effect on society’s definition of “womanhood.”
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Decisions, decisions. Don’t they plague us? And we cannot, in all conscience,
take every decision to the Lord. He has gifted us with the ‘as of self’, has empowered us with rationality, and has given women, in particular, wonderfully sensitive intuition. Our antennae are out, ready for action.

For the main part we can cope with the more basic needs that Abraham Maslow, humanistic psychologist, perceived in our psyche. He reasoned that human beings have a hierarchy of needs, and that as these become more sophisticated and inner directed, they shift from survival tactics to deeper psychological drives. Unless we are particularly unfortunate we can cope with hunger, thirst and safety. Most of us satisfy our ‘belonging’ needs and are able to esteem ourselves on the road to self-actualization. We can achieve our potential if we work hard and are given opportunities in life.
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BEAUTY…a word we throw around daily in our lives but what does this word really mean? The dictionary defines beauty as “a combination of qualities, such as shape, color, or form, that pleases the aesthetic senses, especially the sight.” Should beauty only be what we see with the naked eye?

Personally beauty has to be more than how a person looks on the outside; the shape of their face, make-up or piercing, the size of your clothes etc. To me, beauty has to be how you carry yourself, love yourself and treat others who you approve or don’t approve off. Beauty is the way you show compassion and empathy to a stranger you don’t know.
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You think you know someone, then you learn the back story…

Do you ever meet someone, get to know them a bit, and form ideas in your mind about them? “He’s weird.” “Why on earth would she do that??” “What is this dude’s deal?” I’m not proud to admit it, but I’ll be honest, I have. I like to think that I still treat people well, despite pigeonholing them – hopefully you do, too – however it’s a sobering moment when I recognise that I’ve done this, when I realise that I jumped to conclusions; I didn’t know the whole story – and I shouldn’t have needed to, in the first place, but it seems to help.
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