How important is it to belong? What must we do to belong? Who decides if we belong or not?
These were not questions I seriously asked myself, but through a series of incidents some years ago, I found a satisfying answer. I also found, along the way, that you often need to find your own answers to have the point really sink in.
Even so, I thought it might be useful to share my experience for others who might be seriously asking the question, “Where do I belong?”
As you might expect, the “where do I belong?” issue for me was grounded in the issue of abortion. In the 1980’s, when I first became aware of the scope of legalized abortion-on-demand, I found myself reading, thinking and talking about the issue a great deal. I was surprised to find that people I knew were not shocked by the statistics that I was reading about. One and a half million abortions in the U.S. a year. Four thousand a day.
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I’ve been thinking recently about what my body can tell me, and the power that can come with paying attention to it.
Since having kids, I’ve been on a journey of working to understand how to help them understand their own bodies and their experience of having a body. One of the things I didn’t know was the many ways that our feelings affect our bodies. And in that way, I realise that I have been very out of touch with my body for my whole life. I didn’t have a developed sense of body awareness, and I didn’t have a wide vocabulary for describing my physical experiences. I’ve been learning as I work to understand these things for my kids as to the power just having the correct words can bring.
As I’ve learned to identify muscles and physical experiences more accurately I’ve been able to understand what is happening inside my body. For example, you can pay attention to how to engage your stomach muscles when you’ve had it all explained carefully in terms of how to feel those different muscles and how to get them to engage.
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Our local pool opened this month—the literal and metaphorical watering hole of the neighborhood. Moms gather to apply sunscreen to their tribes, hover over young swimmers, and chat. Mostly we stick to small talk. Sometimes we get into deeper topics like education or marriage. And sometimes we stray into gossip.
“I heard Mark’s wife just up and left.”
“Did you see Claire’s new haircut?”
“Ashley is having another baby, bless her heart.”
Are we supposed to feel sorry for Mark, or are we questioning his qualities as a husband? The remark about Claire’s new look could imply admiration, or it could be veiled criticism of her taste. And while I hope we’re meant to be happy for Ashley, the comment might mean she’s out of her depth and going deeper. Bless her heart.
I don’t often gossip, but when I do, I have a lot of fun doing it. Fortunately I know that fun does not always equal good. We can experience good delights and bad delights—a profound idea of the New Christianity.
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As the school year comes to a close, many students are excited about the prospect of heading home for the summer. But how should people prepare themselves to head to their eternal home? To answer this question, we must discuss both the similarities and differences between homes in heaven and on earth; uncover the components of what it means to come home both naturally and spiritually and, finally, explore the means by which a person prepares themselves for heaven and, therefore, prepares themselves for their eternal home.
By viewing the process of finding our eternal home; we will become informed on the importance of life on earth and how to make our natural life productive in preparing us for a life of use in heaven.
We have all had the experience of coming home after a long trip and feeling peace wash over us; or felt the relief of returning home after a long day of work. It is a feeling that we want to last; that sense of belonging, safety, purpose and familiarity is reassuring.
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